LOL. Your puppies are made of pure adorableness! <3 <3 <3
*big hugs* Don't let Don get to you. If the review was about one of your stories, just remember that you're a wonderful writer and if someone doesn't like what you've written... that's okay. Everyone likes different things.
Glad that you're liking Stargate! It's always fun to get into a new fandom. :)
They are really really horridly cute. *huggles them*
Don has gotten to me and beaten me with a stick. And it is okay -- even expected -- that people not like my stuff. It's more the way it's been expressed, and the list of complaints given. (Sort of a: OMG I did *all* of this wrong?)
I am loving stargate. I'm gonna go watch some more and try to not think about current upheaval. *hugs*
*snerks* I gotta do a picture post of Kipper sometime soon, just because.
Also, I know. You can get 500,000,000+ reviews and the one that rips into your writing for good/bad reasons makes you feel sick to your stomach. Just remember, there are readers out there who think Kenshin/Saitoh is the best couple ever gag which means that the fandoms are full of epic!fail on many levels.
I would love to see Kipper pictures! I have some video of Zoe barking at my husband (off screen) while he's on the treadmill that I'm gonna try and post sometime soon.
It's probably going to sound bizarre, but my problem is more that I'm too willing to believe what is written in the negative review, than that I actually received one. *head desk*
I left you an epic review… Aren’t dogs the best things ever? Something about that much love directed at you is just… amazing. I’ll gets some pics up for you sometime this week.
Awww, puppies. :D And I'm glad you're enjoying SGA! How far into it are you? Is Sheppard still your fave? Anyone you hate?
Ughh, I'm sorry about the review--but I totally agree with what the others said. I know that one nasty review seems so much stronger than twenty lovely reviews, and it can be hard to not let it get to you. But you have SO much talent and one person's comments aren't going to change that.
I'm made it up to season 4. Sheppard is still my fave, but I'm not happy that season 4 throws a great big honkin' wrench in the idea of Sheppard/Teyla. I think it's the first time I've 'shipped' something that was then debunked in canon (admittedly, it took 4 years, but still).
*hugs* thank you for the support. I'm just an idiot. >.
Tomorrow is a new day, and maybe I'll feel better. In the immediate future, I'm gonna go watch some SGA with the puppies. They have decided that sofa=win, and like to cuddle with me.
seeing as it was you who replied, added another paragraph, and then rewrote the entire response because you weren't satisfied with just leaving it alone, being the "petulant, wronged party" has already been taken (by you), and rather vehemently. chill out.
i'd like to continue by saying you shouldn't be depressed by what i said. the negative always outweighs the positive, and i was just getting tired of seeing a predicatable, recurring pattern in some stories. take whatever hurtful things i've written and show me. prove that you're not only the one out of five that can actually write, but a damn good one at that. honestly, if you constantly expected positive reviews, how would you get better? the occasional punch in the gut forces you to think and not bask in the almost obligatory "you're such an awesome writer" review. tomorrow's a new day because you learned something. your work just seemed to have gotten monotonous, and i know you'll always hate me, but i hope you just learn something (besides that fact that i'm a bitch_ and make something original.
that just seems like the only effective way to get rid of whatever depression you're in right now.
I don't have a problem that you don't like my writing. I don't have a problem with the fact that you probably will NEVER like my writing. Okay? That is entirely your opinion, and you are welcome and entitled to it. I even -- as I already said -- can see some of your argument that the actual sex part is a bit formulaic, and have worried over that myself.
My problem is mostly with the way you decided to offer your criticism. You were not upfront about it. It took you three replies to say what you really meant, and you got progressively nastier with each. You'd have a lot more weight if you just said: "This is well written, but it doesn't seem like Cloud and Tifa to me. And, the more of your stories I read, the more formulaic I find them." That's a punch in the gut, and it tells me exactly where you're coming from. It's blunt, direct, but neither sarcastic nor nasty nor attacking. It's your opinion, phrased in plain terms, clearly describing what -- in all honesty -- is your problem with my fic. This is not what you did.
You also said something that, to me, is incredibly charged and nasty. I'm willing to admit I overreacted and even that maybe you didn't mean it the way it came out. But no writer, anywhere, regardless of what they're writing, is going to like being told that there is nothing about their writing to differentiate it from everyone else's. That is what you did, and yes, I have a problem with it. I have a problem with your failure to understand why it would upset not just me, but anyone. This statement is what depressed me.
Your review has made me think, but I wouldn't count that as a triumph. I haven't decided that you are right and everything I've produced is crap. I have no new compulsion to go out and write differently. I have, instead, come to the conclusion that your view of the characters and your expectations for a lemon fic are drastically different from mine. Does that make you right and me wrong? No. Does that make me right and you wrong? Again, I'm going to say 'no'. It means you're not going to find what you're looking for here.
If you would really like to 'get rid of' my depression (and, it doesn't work that way) the best way would be to apologize. NOT for disliking my work, but for the way you went about this. Failing that, you could just drop it, which is why I banned you in the first place. I suppose I might as well remove that, since it hasn't stopped you.
And yes, you were being petulant. I hadn't come and told you that your babies were not only ugly, but identical duplicates ALL of which were ugly. You did, and I didn't like it. Most people wouldn't. For you to act like I'm the one (or, in this case perhaps it would be better to say ONLY one) being unreasonable, and then play the hurt and offended party because I didn't like it, really takes a lot of self-importance. It also takes a lot for you to imply it was petulant of me to defend myself and my opinion. As I said, that phrase was quite the trigger, and I will admit I overreacted. For that, I am sorry. That doesn't change the fact that you did the same, and with no allowances for the fact that maybe my writing is important to me.
Hey there, Tae. Re: review depression. I guess the anonymous triad was the kicker, huh? It's not written well enough to make it easy to approach for examination, so I'm not sure what the main beef is. Maybe the style with which you write "the sexy stuff". ??? OK, here's my take on it. You have said yourself that you wanted to explore different ways to tell about Tifa and Cloud's enthusiastic lovemaking. There is a Tae stamp to a story, yes. It's why we (I know I'm not the only one!) check your site regularly and frequently. 'Cause we knows what we likes and we knows where to get it. That might be frustrating for a writer, it might seem like being pigeonholed, but for me it's a blessing. You cannot know how much your steamy sexy stories have meant to me. Long before I had the courage to tell you, I was devouring every story over and over again. The steamy ones as well as the tender charming ones (like "Ore no Panda") (I still wonder what you misheard in your grogginess that put the idea for that title and story in your noggin.) But back to the sex stuff. I've branched out now and am devouring old fashioned paper books now, in addition to fan fiction. And the books I want to read are found in what's called the Romance section and it's subsections. I have spent my life OUT of that aise; I would rather have died than hold in my hand a romance novel with those bodice-ripper covers. But now that's what I crave. And now I've plowed through enough of them to have favorite writers. One of the things I judge them on is their ability to write the sexy stuff. Again, I knows what I like, and I sure as heck know what doesn't work for me. I read my favorite authors because they are in some ways predictable. I don't have time to spend on what doesn't do it for me. I have noticed that writers who turn out large numbers of books in a particular genre somehow are both predictable and not so much---phrases are familiar, scenes are set in familiar ways, the same words are used ... but when the writer is good, those aren't problems 'cause there is newness worked in there, too. It's hard to explain. As others have said, if the person doesn't like your stories, there is no compulsion to read them. But you have graced my life with a juicyness that I had lost--getting old and encountering health adventures of all sorts have taken a toll on me and the person in the recliner chair across the room. Reading stories isn't the same as the way it used to be, but they have lit the spark of fun and flirting that had gone missing. And that, my friend, is a treasure beyond measure. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts (recliner chair person and me), and please keep writing whatever pops into your talented head. I'll be here, reading glasses at the ready! mc P.S. The other night, crawling into bed after another great story full of lap-clenching tingles, my special person said, in his sleep, "I'm going to make sure my next wife reads these stories." Truth.
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Date: 2010-03-12 08:43 pm (UTC)From:*big hugs* Don't let Don get to you. If the review was about one of your stories, just remember that you're a wonderful writer and if someone doesn't like what you've written... that's okay. Everyone likes different things.
Glad that you're liking Stargate! It's always fun to get into a new fandom. :)
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Date: 2010-03-13 08:47 am (UTC)From:Don has gotten to me and beaten me with a stick. And it is okay -- even expected -- that people not like my stuff. It's more the way it's been expressed, and the list of complaints given. (Sort of a: OMG I did *all* of this wrong?)
I am loving stargate. I'm gonna go watch some more and try to not think about current upheaval. *hugs*
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Date: 2010-03-12 09:28 pm (UTC)From:Also, I know. You can get 500,000,000+ reviews and the one that rips into your writing for good/bad reasons makes you feel sick to your stomach. Just remember, there are readers out there who think Kenshin/Saitoh is the best couple ever
gagwhich means that the fandoms are full of epic!fail on many levels.And you are anything but! *smooshes*
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Date: 2010-03-13 08:55 am (UTC)From:It's probably going to sound bizarre, but my problem is more that I'm too willing to believe what is written in the negative review, than that I actually received one. *head desk*
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Date: 2010-03-13 06:44 pm (UTC)From:Aren’t dogs the best things ever? Something about that much love directed at you is just… amazing. I’ll gets some pics up for you sometime this week.
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Date: 2010-03-12 11:51 pm (UTC)From:Ughh, I'm sorry about the review--but I totally agree with what the others said. I know that one nasty review seems so much stronger than twenty lovely reviews, and it can be hard to not let it get to you. But you have SO much talent and one person's comments aren't going to change that.
*HUGS*
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Date: 2010-03-13 08:56 am (UTC)From:*hugs* thank you for the support. I'm just an idiot. >.
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Date: 2010-03-13 04:39 am (UTC)From:Puppies are a wonderful therapy. Don´t know what that review was about, but don´t let it get you down! Rise and shine, hun.
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Date: 2010-03-13 08:59 am (UTC)From:Tomorrow is a new day, and maybe I'll feel better. In the immediate future, I'm gonna go watch some SGA with the puppies. They have decided that sofa=win, and like to cuddle with me.
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Date: 2010-03-13 09:31 pm (UTC)From: (Anonymous)no subject
Date: 2010-03-13 09:39 pm (UTC)From: (Anonymous)that just seems like the only effective way to get rid of whatever depression you're in right now.
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Date: 2010-03-13 11:32 pm (UTC)From:I don't have a problem that you don't like my writing. I don't have a problem with the fact that you probably will NEVER like my writing. Okay? That is entirely your opinion, and you are welcome and entitled to it. I even -- as I already said -- can see some of your argument that the actual sex part is a bit formulaic, and have worried over that myself.
My problem is mostly with the way you decided to offer your criticism. You were not upfront about it. It took you three replies to say what you really meant, and you got progressively nastier with each. You'd have a lot more weight if you just said: "This is well written, but it doesn't seem like Cloud and Tifa to me. And, the more of your stories I read, the more formulaic I find them." That's a punch in the gut, and it tells me exactly where you're coming from. It's blunt, direct, but neither sarcastic nor nasty nor attacking. It's your opinion, phrased in plain terms, clearly describing what -- in all honesty -- is your problem with my fic. This is not what you did.
You also said something that, to me, is incredibly charged and nasty. I'm willing to admit I overreacted and even that maybe you didn't mean it the way it came out. But no writer, anywhere, regardless of what they're writing, is going to like being told that there is nothing about their writing to differentiate it from everyone else's. That is what you did, and yes, I have a problem with it. I have a problem with your failure to understand why it would upset not just me, but anyone. This statement is what depressed me.
Your review has made me think, but I wouldn't count that as a triumph. I haven't decided that you are right and everything I've produced is crap. I have no new compulsion to go out and write differently. I have, instead, come to the conclusion that your view of the characters and your expectations for a lemon fic are drastically different from mine. Does that make you right and me wrong? No. Does that make me right and you wrong? Again, I'm going to say 'no'. It means you're not going to find what you're looking for here.
If you would really like to 'get rid of' my depression (and, it doesn't work that way) the best way would be to apologize. NOT for disliking my work, but for the way you went about this. Failing that, you could just drop it, which is why I banned you in the first place. I suppose I might as well remove that, since it hasn't stopped you.
And yes, you were being petulant. I hadn't come and told you that your babies were not only ugly, but identical duplicates ALL of which were ugly. You did, and I didn't like it. Most people wouldn't. For you to act like I'm the one (or, in this case perhaps it would be better to say ONLY one) being unreasonable, and then play the hurt and offended party because I didn't like it, really takes a lot of self-importance. It also takes a lot for you to imply it was petulant of me to defend myself and my opinion. As I said, that phrase was quite the trigger, and I will admit I overreacted. For that, I am sorry. That doesn't change the fact that you did the same, and with no allowances for the fact that maybe my writing is important to me.
Okay?
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Date: 2010-03-14 01:31 am (UTC)From:I don't know what the review was about, and nothing can take back that punch in your gut, but just know I (and many, many others) love your work <3
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Date: 2010-03-17 02:16 am (UTC)From: